FROM THE START
COMMUNITY FOR CLARITY
THE FULL STORY | ITS NOT WEDNESDAY
I distinctly remember a summer as a young child where I had no sense of time. I did not know what day it was. I surrendered to whatever was happening in that moment. For that summer, weeks bled into each other. I blissfully existed.
My grandmother was diagnosed with Alzheimer's in the mid 2000's. I was still young, a privileged age to have a grandparent just beginning to forget. Children are deeply accepting, and without knowing it, they preserve the dignity that is often lost with neurodegenerative diseases.
The name It's Not Wednesday was born out of dignity. Out of acceptance of what we cannot control. As my grandmother progressed, my mother would say, "if she thinks it's Wednesday, let it be Wednesday." As humans we naturally want to correct. We want everyone to live within the confinement of time. Without it, we struggle to attach meaning to life. But what I witnessed for many years was a woman blissfully happy, emulating a child who experienced a summer where weeks did not exist.
It's Not Wednesday is a space where we can learn to accept the wildly human reality of impermanence.
This is where it started. With my Grandmother Liz. Welcome to It's Not Wednesday.
ABBY TAIT
My father was diagnosed with Lewy body dementia and Parkinson's in 2020. The diagnosis itself was a relief. After six years of anxiety, depression, and many dark days, finally understanding what was happening gave us the space to process and ask the right questions of the right people.
My grandmother lived with Alzheimer's for almost thirteen years. A woman I believe was a true angel sent to this earth.
I have since lost them both.
During this time I was living overseas, trying to carve out my own path and build my own identity. In my mid-twenties, I was still discovering who I was. Slowly losing a parent through those years was deeply disorienting, and I felt conflicted about whether I needed to pause that chapter to be closer to my home.
My family and I have become all too familiar with what these diseases bring: the frustration, the uncertainty, and the weight carried by those expected to navigate the system while grieving a person who is still living.
I built It's Not Wednesday to be what I couldn't find during those years: support that cuts through the jargon, that honours the grief that begins long before a loss, and helps people stay connected to themselves while everything changes.
I believe my experience is a tool. One I feel compelled to share. To prepare each other for the reversal of roles, to hold clarity within the chaos of loss, and to help understand how these experiences shape our identity.
EDUCATION + TRAINING
Registered Psychotherapist (Qualifying) — College of Registered Psychotherapists of Ontario (CRPO)
Master of Arts in Counselling Psychology
IFS Therapy for Grief and Loss
Compassion-Focused Therapy
ADHD Clinical Services Provider (ADHD-CCSP) Certification
Bachelor of Commerce — University of Saskatchewan
HOW WE WILL WORK TOGETHER
Rather than trying to manage or control your experience, we focus on helping you meet yourself where you are. Together, we look beyond your thoughts to what's happening underneath them. Your emotional patterns, your nervous system, and the parts of you that are trying to protect or cope. We work to understand the cycles that keep showing up.
WHAT SHIFTS
Over time, many clients notice they feel less reactive, more grounded, and more connected to what actually matters to them.
THE SPACE
I aim to create a space that feels honest and free of judgment. Somewhere you don't have to perform, or have it all figured out before you arrive. Change happens naturally when you feel free to be yourself.
GETTING STARTED
Getting started is simple. We begin with a free 15-minute consultation. A low-pressure conversation to see if we're a good fit, ask questions, and get a sense of what working together could look like. There's nothing to prepare and no commitment. If it feels right, we'll find a time that works and go from there.